Helpful Tips
Tip #1
If you are in a relationship where you are being verbally, emotionally, physically, or sexually abused…
- Remember that the abuse is not your fault
- Call a relationship violence hotline
- Talk to a counselor
- Make a safety plan
- Keep a support network of friends and family that you can talk to about the abuse.
- Document the abuse
Tip #2
If you are having a problem controlling your abusive behavior…
- Take responsibility for that behavior
- Know that you do not have to continue behaving this way
- Call a hotline for more information about the batterers’ intervention
- Join a batterers’ support group. Anger management is not enough.
Tip #3
If you have a friend who is being abused…
- Listen to your friend without judging
- Help your friend recognize that what’s happening is not healthy
- Encourage your friend’s strength and courage
- If your friend is able to end the abusive relationship, continue to be supportive of them once they are alone
Tip #4
If you have a friend who is abusive…
- Help your friend focus on how their behavior make other people feel
- Talk to your friend about the serious effects of abuse for both the victim and the perpetrator
- Make it clear to your friend that they alone are responsible for their behavior