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Helpful Tips

Tip #1
If you are in a relationship where you are being verbally, emotionally, physically, or sexually abused…

  • Remember that the abuse is not your fault
  • Call a relationship violence hotline
  • Talk to a counselor
  • Make a safety plan
  • Keep a support network of friends and family that you can talk to about the abuse.
  • Document the abuse

Tip #2
If you are having a problem controlling your abusive behavior…

  • Take responsibility for that behavior
  • Know that you do not have to continue behaving this way
  • Call a hotline for more information about the batterers’ intervention
  • Join a batterers’ support group. Anger management is not enough.

Tip #3
If you have a friend who is being abused…

  • Listen to your friend without judging
  • Help your friend recognize that what’s happening is not healthy
  • Encourage your friend’s strength and courage
  • If your friend is able to end the abusive relationship, continue to be supportive of them once they are alone

Tip #4
If you have a friend who is abusive…

  • Help your friend focus on how their behavior make other people feel
  • Talk to your friend about the serious effects of abuse for both the victim and the perpetrator
  • Make it clear to your friend that they alone are responsible for their behavior